Separate Tables

Years ago, in college, I saw the play Separate Tables. The image of these characters sitting at their 'separate tables' in the dining room of a residential hotel was part of the dramatic sequencing to connect the characters. It's an image that's never left my mind.

Separate Tables is a 1958 American drama film starring Rita Hayworth, Deborah Kerr, David Niven, Burt Lancaster, and Wendy Hiller, based on two one-act plays by Terence Rattigan that were collectively known by this name. Niven and Hiller won Academy Awards for their performances. 

Ego's strong value is separation. I'm separate from you. You're different than me. The Divine and I live on separate islands. 

Every story of separation is unique to its host. I've struggled with a couple story lines. Being gay in a LDS Mormon family and culture played its drama until the age of 29. At that point I seroconverted into a new plot of separation with HIV. This separation would funnel me into AIDS in 2008. 

Ultimately, me being separate from you, cuts me off from God. Because you are an expression of the Divine and so am I. We are the same stuff.

One of the great spiritual opportunities we must address in life is simply this: How can we feel connected to each other, and to the 'God' of our understanding, and call trump on our individual ego story lines of separation, and find a creative way to connect our separate tables.